“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” Buddha
The focus of counselling is on the here and now, understanding yourself in the present moment with your current challenges, and in the context of your relationships and life situation. You have of course been shaped by your childhood, by your familial and cultural heritage and where you have lived and what you have done. However, you are also constantly evolving and choosing how to move forward in the world.
My approach uses a humanistic-existential framework which means that I look at you first and foremost as a human being grappling with life’s challenges and appreciate that you have your own unique journey through life. My practice is holistic, meaning that your body, mind, emotions and spirit are all interconnected and influence each other.
Counselling is a collaboration between the client and the therapist where we focus on what matters to you personally. You will be offered a tailored approach specific to your own unique needs and situation. Change can be hard and scary but when you understand how your thoughts, feelings and behaviours interact with each other and in your relationships, it can be easier to know how to move forward. Counselling often helps you to find greater awareness about your possibilities and to come to terms with anything that you cannot change.
Individuals and Teenagers
Counselling begins with an initial assessment during which I can get to know you, your situation, history and what you want help with. At the same time, you can assess if I am good fit for you and where you want to focus. Often, initial sessions are held weekly as it helps to build a working therapeutic relationship and make some initial progress. Over time, sessions may reduce to fortnightly or monthly depending upon your issues and availability.
Counselling can be for a fixed number of sessions, i.e. 5, 10 or 20 or it can be open-ended if addressing long-standing psychological or relational issues. We will periodically review how therapy is going, whether the focus needs to be changed, ways to prevent relapse and talk about ending in advance.
Couples
A typical introductory assessment and agreement about what to work on would involve 3 sessions: one together and one for each partner separately. If that sounds like a lot, please bear in mind that sometimes just figuring out what needs to change can be very therapeutic in its own right.
Ongoing counselling is tailored to your needs and availability and will likely involve both individual and joint sessions.