“To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfilment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before” Rollo May, Love and Will
Relationships are a fundamental part of our world. When they work well we are loved and accepted for who we are and our needs, dreams and desires are supported. Ideally, our partners keep our best interests at heart together with their own. However, life rarely runs smoothly and ALL relationships run into difficulties.
Therapy can give a couple a safe place to try and communicate respectfully about what is going on – to really hear the other person and be listened to in return. To explore what is missing or needs to change. Each person can clarify their own needs and what they want in the relationship and see how to move forward whether that be together or separately.
"Do you know what people really want? Everyone, I mean. Everybody in the world is thinking: I wish there was just one other person I could really talk to, who could really understand me, who'd be kind to me. That's what people really want, if they're telling the truth." Doris Lessing, The Golden Notebook
Common reasons why couples seek counselling:
Communication difficulties Affairs and trust issues Arguments and Conflict Address a specific issue in the relationship Feeling taken for granted or unconnected Technology Issues Premarital counselling Blended families Separation and divorce
As an experienced counsellor with individuals, families and parents, I am now developing a practice working with couples directly. Please get in touch and we can schedule a time to meet.